This life we have been given is a gift. I believe to maximize our time here on this planet we must try to embrace love, compassion and forgiveness for all living beings.
In today’s world we are faced with multiple layers of change. Navigating these changes may bring up deep levels of emotions. To be able to explore these experiences successfully, I believe we must embrace forgiveness in all forms to move forward in healing.
In my experience, having guidance and steps to help me process change has been a wonderful tool. Over the years of developing my meditation practices and supporting others in healing, I have put together a simple, yet powerful, 3 step process to forgiveness that is highly effective for anyone to practice. I hope you find them helpful during this time.
3 Steps to Forgiveness
Step 1: Acknowledgement
Acknowledging that the challenge, problem or resistance exists.
Step 2: Acceptance
Accepting the challenge that we are presented with. As uncomfortable as it may feel, sitting and accepting is one of the most profound steps. In the accepting space we are then lead into a state of grievance.
Step 3: Grief
Whatever we feel or have experienced must go before we can forgive. It doesn’t mean that we forget, condone or even excuse the problem, challenge or block, it means that we release the hold it has on us. This kind of release enables us to free up space within our hearts to forgive. There is no time limit to grieving, go at your own pace in your own way. It is our willingness to go through the grief that opens the gate to forgiveness.
These steps move us into forgiveness. Forgiving does not mean that you forget. Forgiveness is consciously choosing to release the emotion of anger and resentment that may bind you to a situation, experience or emotion.
We must grieve and forgive the old before we can embrace the new. Its ok to ask for help when you feel you may need it. In the world, the outside noise can be loud. Taking time to be quiet and go inside can help facilitate the inner journey to accessing and understanding forgiveness.
Onkar Ryan is a Kundalini yoga student, teacher, and meditative healer. She has been practicing Kundalini Yoga, as taught by Yogi Bhajan, since 2006 and began teaching in the summer of 2008. Onkar’s classes focus on the deep healing of the self through meditation, breath, yoga, mantra, and relaxation.
Along with fellow Spread The Light blog contributor, Hari Simran, Onkar brings her love and wisdom of teaching and meditation experience to create powerful 40-day programs that help to heal the mind, body and soul.