For many single Gals, V-day can feel a little like D-day (Doomsday!) but it doesn’t have to feel that way.
While it can be challenging to feel alone/lonely on a day that celebrates intimate relationships, when you’re not in one, it doesn’t have to feel overwhelming or anxiety-provoking.
The best thing to do under these circumstances, is to prepare ahead of time, and either go all out, celebrating the love you have for yourself (YAS!), or you can get your closest gals together and have a beautiful Galentine’s celebration…or why not do both?!
Here are a few things I recommend for a single gal to do on Valentine’s day, to make it a memorable one:
~ Buy yourself a Valentine’s Day card or a loving, mushy card. Write a love letter to yourself in the card, and list all the things you love and appreciate about yourself, both the external, and internal (more importantly the internal characteristics and traits you appreciate the most).
~ Buy yourself your favorite bunch of flowers or even a stem!
~ Cook yourself your favorite meal or order in from your favorite restaurant.
~ Go through a manifestation and self~love meditation/visualization ritual (see below).
Hope you feel fully loved up after this!
Gently close your eyes. If you have a Rose Quartz Crystal, place it over your heart center. Rose Quartz is the potent crystal of love. Specifically; self-love, self-acceptance, self- compassion and self-forgiveness.
Now move your focus to your breath. Breathe in, and inhale for four counts, hold your breath for four counts, and exhale for eight counts.
Repeat this several times.
As you inhale, repeat (out loud or in your head):
“I am worthy of receiving healthy love”. On each exhale, repeat; “I am enough”
Slowly, start to feel your body ground and your shoulders relax. Feel each part of your body melt into an energy of calm and relaxation.
Allow your breathing to become less structured, and more organic. Allow it to flow.
Now, imagine yourself in your calm and happy place. Perhaps it’s a waterfall, or the ocean, or a tranquil spot where you always feel calm and settled.
While sitting in this spot, imagine a beautiful candy floss colored mist spread over your entire being, enveloping you in a complete cloud of love.
Feel the energy of love permeate your body, and spread from the crown of your head, trickling down the base of your spine, spreading through your finger tips, to the tips of your toes. This energy of love is being absorbed by every cell of skin within your body, every layer of tissue, and it finds its way back to your heart center, where love originates.
Feel a warm glow emanating from your heart. What color is this glow?
Now visualize all the people you know who love you, who care for you, who support you. And then visualize all those who you love, care, and support.
Feel the energy of their love enter your heart, allowing your heart to expand deeper and deeper, more and more.
As you are wrapped up in this potent energy of love, begin to think of the qualities you love in human beings. It may be loyalty, it may be thoughtfulness and consideration. Maybe it’s kindness and humour. Collect all these qualities in a golden bucket, not as expectations, but as givens.
These are the qualities of your future partner. Someone who is being brought to you in this moment, in real time. Someone who is experiencing lessons of their own, so that they can cross paths with you.
Open your heart and welcome them in, and again, feel the warmth and glow of love expand your heart center more and more. Bathe in this expansion as your heart swells with love.
Tamarin holds a Masters in Clinical Psychology, and has trained at prestigious clinics in Beverly Hills, California.
Through her travels, attending Balinese healing + yoga retreats, and life experiences, Tam has merged her Psychotherapy experience and background with her spiritual guidance, intuitive and energetic healing capabilities. And so, EmpowHER Healing was born. Tam now calls Sydney, Australia, home.
Tam offers one-on-one sessions (in person and virtual) which which weave the wisdom of many modalities, merging the traditional psychotherapy model with a more holistic + spiritual guidance + healing. Her powerful sessions aim to cultivate the deep transformation driven by one’s readiness to discover their own potential for self-love, empowerment, expansion, and healing. Clients leave Tam’s sessions with their souls feeling aligned, empowered, expanded, and transformed.